When one person longs for closeness and the other pulls away, it can feel like you're speaking completely different emotional languages. Yet this is one of the most common relationship dynamics I see in counselling—and one I've experienced personally. If you've ever found yourself wondering: "Why do I always seem to choose emotionally unavailable partners?" "Why does my partner shut down whenever we need to talk?" "Why do we keep having the same argument over and over?" ...yo